CSAAM 2012 Tweets | April 17
- We need more experts willing to be part of twitter chats on CSA related topics. Lawyers/counselors /educations/NGOs please volunteer.
- Staying Safe Online – Message from Tulir http://wp.me/p1pP52-fm
- The topic for today’s tweets is Healing from CSA. Moving towards being a survivor. #CSAAM
- The following information has been sourced from http://www.pandys.org. #CSAAM
- Survivors of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) often have conflicting feelings and opinions about the child they were at the time of the abuse.
- A CSA survivor might be mad at the child they were back then for not fighting back, not running away, or not telling. #CSAAM
- There might be the feeling that this child caused the abuse and therefore is responsible for the pain being felt now as an adult. #CSAAM
- Many of these feelings end up internalized as anger or resentment towards an inner child, representative of a childhood self. #CSAAM
- Some CSA survivors may have the feeling that their abused child self is someone else, not themselves at a younger age. #CSAAM
- Acknowledging that you are the adult version of this child who experienced the abuse can be scary. #CSAAM
- Healing your inner child can be very intense work, and it is recommended that you have a strong support system before starting. #CSAAM
- It may be difficult to remember how a child thinks, but reaching this understanding can help understand why one acted that way as a child.
- Behaving this way doesn’t mean that you should have known better; it means you were a child & there was no way you could have known better.
- It is okay if you don’t feel love or compassion for your inner child at this point; you should simply strive to make a connection. #CSAAM
- Take some time to write to your inner child to share how you feel about him or her. #CSAAM
- If you feel up to it, try writing to yourself as your inner child: how does your inner child feel treated by your adult self? #CSAAM
- Once you feel a real connection to your inner child, you can begin to work with your inner child to heal your relationship. #CSAAM
- Many survivors cannot or do not talk about the abuse right away, & sometimes they can’t even remember about the abuse until they are adults.
- t may help to look at a photograph of yourself at a young age, or at an age when you were being abused. What do you see in this photo?
- Unfair Age Gap? Post by Sue http://wp.me/p1pP52-mp
- How big are you? You are probably much too small to have fought back, and what fears must this child have worried about if he or she told?
- Many CSA survivors grew up in tumultuous family environments where the abuse experienced first-hand wasn’t the only problem in life.
- Tulir Workshop in Chennai http://wp.me/p1pP52-mA
- There may have been fighting or substance abuse or other family issues going on in addition to your abuse; at the time. #CSAAM
- A video – CSA Survivor Interview http://wp.me/p1pP52-le
- Someone who has a wounded inner child may not feel in control of their life. They may feel as though their inner child is behind the wheel
- You need to learn how to be a parent to your inner child; perhaps being the parent that you never had growing up. #CSAAM
- The following tweets are taken from http://www.theadvocacycenter.org. #CSAAM
- It may be very difficult for a survivor of child sexual abuse to talk about what happened to them. #CSAAM
- Some adult survivors think that because the abuse happened when they were a child that it is too late to heal. #CSAAM
- CSA Survivor Story – 4 – The Old Man in the Housing Complex http://wp.me/p1pP52-gV
- The decision to heal. The decision to heal from child sexual abuse is a powerful and positive choice.
- Recognizing that healing is possible. Survivors of abuse are not alone, it is never too late to talk about the abuse or ask for help.
- The Emergency Stage. During this, the abuse may be all that the survivor can think about & it may feel as if they are constantly in crisis.
- CSA In The News – April 17 http://wp.me/p1pP52-mf
- Believing the abuse happened. As kids, we sometimes deny that bad things are happening because they are hard to deal with or understand.
- Breaking the silence. Speaking out about the abuse can be a very powerful step for survivors, and one that takes a great deal of courage.
- Understanding that the abuse is not their fault. Abuse is never the fault of the person being abused.
- Grieving is a natural part of healing. The survivor may grieve for the hurt, for not being protected or for missing out on childhood
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