Young Mum by Pallavi Borah

There is no universal definition of child sexual abuse. However, a central characteristic of any abuse is the dominant position of an adult that allows him or her to force or coerce a child into sexual activity. This has been going on since time immemorial but it is only recently that it is being talked about openly. Statistics say that 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused before their 18th birthdays. Less than one in ten will tell. But this can be prevented and this does not have to happen.

I have a 12 year old son who is aware of a lot of things, yet so innocent in a lot of ways and so trusting. I want to save him the trauma of being violated. I try to be his best friend and I have told him that if he does not communicate to me when he has a problem, I will not be able to help him. I communicate with him at all levels and I keep my antenna up when it comes to his moods. These days he says he needs his space and that leaves me feeling a little frustrated, only because I worry for him. The worst part with child sexual abuse is that most of the time its perpetrators are not strangers so the – “Do not talk to strangers” does not apply in this case. . I have told him about the unwanted “touch” – no one should touch him, hug him or kiss him unnecessarily. He has told me in the past when he was around 4 or 5 years old that he was irritated when a certain person kissed him. That was his way of showing his discomfort. I made sure that person never came near him again. It is family members or people known to the family who take advantage of the situation. I have heard of the stories that go on in school bathrooms and I have warned him not to go into the washrooms with any other child, big or small. I do not want him to grow into a paranoid and untrusting adult, yet he should know that there are all kinds of people in this world.

I will do everything in my power to protect him from all kinds of situations but I cannot be everywhere with him. So awareness is the key here. If he knows what to look out for, he can save himself from an unwanted situation.

BIO –  Pallavy Borah :  Pallavy , an Electrical Engineer by qualification has steered towards her passion for web design. At Fleximoms, she is the one stop shop for solutions related to all online properties.